I talk about fear a lot. Why? Because fear ruled my life for years.
Fear is masked by many names, ‘insecurity’, ‘worry’, ‘regret’, or the more commonly used name ‘anxiety’. They’re all derivatives of fear.
In simple terms, a semi is still a semi, despite the name of the company that is written on the side of the trailer.
Fear is fear, despite what other names are being used to describe it.
When I was living an insecure life, I was completely afraid of what others thought of me. I lived with a highly unsettled state of mind because I was fearful over how people perceived me. I wanted to always be the best, I wanted to make sure the boy I was with didn’t look at anyone else but me. I was jealous. I was terrified. I picked out every single flaw I had, all the time, in front of whoever would listen.
When I was living a worry filled life, I was spending countless hours afraid of failing and wondering if I was doing the right thing. I was fearful of the outcome of my life, worrying that it wasn’t going to amount to anything. Then, of course the biggest fear was once I became a mom I constantly worried if I was being a good mother, going back to the countless hours of feeling like a failure.
When I was living a life of regret, I would sit and just focus on my past mistakes. I would let the ‘what ifs’ rule my thoughts which would bring in deep, unsettling fears into my mind. I was so consumed with wishing I could correct my past mistakes, that I kept making the same mistakes over and over because I wasn’t looking ahead, I was looking behind in regret.
So the piled up insecurities, worry, and regret all boiled down to me living a life full of anxiety and depression, feeling miserable and wasted.
Oddly enough, living with anxiety is typical and society has helped make it this way.
It’s the same thing as fear, but yet for some reason if you tell someone “ oh you’re just afraid” they will shun it because it makes them appear weak, but if you say, “oh you’re dealing with anxiety”, it’s fine, it’s socially acceptable and they’ll agree with it.
Why is that?
It’s because anxiety has been labeled as a socially acceptable illness. Therefore, if someone has anxiety, they are a victim of the illness and can thus claim it without losing social status.
It’s not OK to call someone fearful, but it IS OK to say someone suffers from anxiety.
There is something very confusing with that! They’re the same exact issue, cured by the same answer, but yet- people are being lead to believe that anxiety is something we just have to live with.
It’s a twisted lie. It’s a lie that is believed so whole heartily, that many are capitalizing on it by making money off of it.
Anxiety medications are being sold by the bucket load- for what?
Anxiety medications block receptors in the brain that allow you to complete a thought process, and they also mess with the chemicals known as neurotransmitters which play a huge role in shaping everyday life and functions. Some even have a sedating effect.
So these meds basically numb the person taking them to the point where they can’t feel anything, and therefore no longer care about anything.
They're given a false sense of being cured, when in reality, the underlining problems still exists!
You can’t cure fear with medication. I don’t care how much alcohol is consumed, or how many different drugs are taken, you cannot cure yourself of fear, only Jesus can.
Fear is caused by a failed belief system.
The very definition of fear states: “an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat”
Fear grows, because you’re believing something that is not true.
Jesus is the ONLY cure for fear, because fear cannot live where Jesus lives, and if Jesus lives in you- fear will not be able to stay because the moment you accept Jesus, your whole belief system changes!
1 John 4:18 says “There is NO FEAR in love, for perfect love (God’s love) DRIVES OUT fear, because FEAR has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”
Fear is an emotion, created by the devil, to destroy mankind. It is manufactured by the enemy, and he uses it as a tool to control us, and control our minds so we think we are so far out of control, that we fall deep into despair.
The bible addresses fear quite often. It is not a new found issue, but yet it seems that as time goes on and as things become darker and more negative, fear becomes accepted into our lives like a normal, daily thing.
Jesus does not want you to live in fear. He does not want you to be anxious, he does not want you to live with such insecurities that you can hardly function. He wants you to be free!
John 14:27 “PEACE I leave with you, MY PEACE I give you. Do not let you hearts be troubled…”
Joshua 1:9 “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged…”
2 Timothy 1:7 “for the Spirit God gave us DOES NOT MAKE US TIMID…”
Isaiah 41:10 “do not fear, for I am with you…”
Isaiah 41:13 “For I am the LORD your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, DO NOT FEAR; I will HELP you..”
There is verse after verse in the Bible that speaks to us about how we are to NOT be afraid, yet we still continue to blindly submerge ourselves deep into the depths, thinking that we’re digging our way out. It’s a trap, it’s a lie.
FEAR. IS. A. LIE.
I was there!! I was consumed by it. I was exhausted. I was depressed. I was angry. My mind never rested- it worked overtime trying to figure out what was wrong, how to fix it, and what the secret was.
I can’t even tell you how many times I would scream in my car… “God, I just don’t want to CARE about ANYTHING anymore!”
I truly thought that was what needed to happen, when in reality, all I needed to do was fully submit my life to Christ, and give up.
But not just once- DAILY submission.
When you submit, it’s just like being in a relationship- (because it is), you have to wake up and choose to love Him, choose to have a relationship with Him, engage Him, every day!
Submitting your life to Christ means agreeing to a relationship with Him, and He craves that from you!
Jesus wants to be your best friend. He wants to be your ‘go to’. He wants to be a steady constant in your life.
It’s so simple yet we make it so hard.
I made it complicated, for years, yet all it took to be fully delivered- was one… simple… small…choice- and BOOM- I began to experience day after day of peace, patience, joy; the anger was gone, the unexplained sadness gone, my temper was gone- All because I’ve decided to wake up every day and say “Jesus, thank you. Fill me with Your joy, fill me with Your patience..” And He does. It’s amazing.
It’s freedom. It’s complete freedom.
Do you want this?
Do you want to experience real freedom from anxiety, depression, or fear?!
Here is what you need to do…..Ask!
Open the Bible, it's written all over! All we have to do is ask Jesus.
The problem is we as humans think we know better, and we think that asking is too simple- so there has to be a catch, there must be strings attached. Our mind says..“I can’t ask Him for anything, I’m not good enough.” Or “I don’t deserve it.” Or the worst one I hear a lot, “I need to be in a better place.....”
What is that?? It’s FEAR SPEAKING!!!!!!
It’s all the devil LYING to you so that you will continue to live in darkness and continue to live with anxiety and continue to suffer- when all you truly need to do is just ASK JESUS- and He will set you free!!
Matthew 21:22 says “and in ALL thinks you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.”
Freedom is free to us because Jesus already paid for it on the Cross! He already paid the ultimate price, so that we might live a fearless life, with Him, forever!
Condemnation, guilt, shame; they have no hold on you..
It's we who hold on with a white knuckled grip, all while screaming “I can’t break free, they won’t let me go…”, but we're the one holding on!
I was the one keeping myself trapped, yet I had all the power in the world to simply let go!
So....... it's time! Let go!
and Be free.
Psalm 46:10 “Be still, and know that I am God..”